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When the manager follows up less often than the person would like, the gap sits between contacts: they keep going without knowing whether they are still on track, even if the manager believes they are giving space. Research on feedback seeking sheds light on what is happening. A meta-analysis shows that employees ask for feedback on a cost-benefit basis, and do so more when the relationship with the person they ask is of good quality and when the feedback they receive is often positive [3]. Asking for a check-in therefore does not cost the same for everyone, nor in every relationship. The same meta-analysis finds that such requests become less frequent with job tenure [3], and that their link with performance is small [3]: what matters is what a check-in brings, not its regularity as such. What the person can suggest: a short, regular format, stating what they expect from it, whether a steer on direction, a decision or simply a progress update. The manager, for their part, can set a default slot rather than waiting to be asked.